For the real world just don't feel right

[jessipsaloquitur]

There are things in this life that I just don't understand. Like why my Blackberry is only delivering messages every couple of hours so that they all arrive in large, overwhelming clumps of things I need to give my attention to? And why, even though I've been sitting in front of my computer for hours, I still haven't managed to get a single item crossed off my to-do list today? And why haven't I won the lottery so that I can have several thousand dollars of immediately available disposable income to buy Diamondbacks season tickets?

But topping my list of things that I just don't understand today: why does fandom continue to be so fucking crazy??? Newsflash fandom: (1) he's really not fucking his male costar anywhere but in our collective fantasies; and (2) the likelihood of him fucking YOU anywhere but in YOUR imagination is even slimmer than #1 actually becoming a reality and there being a sex tape to prove it. So, given #1 and #2 but most especially #2, who he's actually dating is none of your damn business. Continued expressions of dismay and, even more disturbing, hate for him and/or her only go to prove your idiocy and inability to take a firm grasp on reality. My suggestion? Get a damn life! (This rant is courtesy of me apparently seeing one too many "I hate her" or "I'm so mad at him" posts on my flist, with apologies to the non-crazy portion of fandom.)

Ok. Moving on. Despite all the things that boggle my mind today, there are also very good things that fill me with joy. For example, I had a damn good workout with the new trainer this afternoon. He's definitely a keeper. Plus, his rates are super reasonable! After the chaos of the holidays and losing the previous trainer, I'm finally feeling positively about getting back to a regular workout routine! \o/

Also, I have two whole weeks of time blocked out next month!!! I don't know what I'll be doing with all that free time, but I'm really looking forward to it! Any ideas about what to do with two whole weeks of vacation time???

Comments

[azewewish.livejournal.com]

I went to Paley because I wanted to hear more about the show from the creative team, not because I gave a shit that Jared & Jensen use the same trailer. I'm going to see Misha at the SPN con because he seems like a cool cat & I dig his acting, not because I care what he thinks of who Jensen & Jared are dating.

I like the creative process. When I interview people, I want to know what the talent thinks of the characters, the writing, the process, the WORK. I don't care who they're dating or where they go to buy coffee or who they're BFFs with.

That's why I have an imagination.

Yes, I absolutely squee over pics of 'my' guys (and gals) hanging out with each other, because it's fun & squeeing over fun things is all part of being a fan. But I'm not entitled to these pics, nor do I go off on rants if I don't get the pics I want or the soundbytes I want or if my (insert favorite actor of choice) doesn't squee over (insert co-star of choice) the way I want them to.

I write RPS because it's fun to imagine, not because I want it to happen in real life. Because, frankly, I don't CARE. It has no bearing on why I like (insert favorite actor/athlete/musician of choice) or what brought me to them in the first place. In the RPS side of fandom, we use the small bits we get & imagine things. But, man, I can do that without seeing the pics - I mean, let's take SPN, for example. Jared & Chad haven't been seen together in a public setting for years, but people still write them. Even though one of them is engaged & the other is dating someone else. Jensen's been dating Danneel for, God, I don't even know how long, Sandy & Jared were engaged, but the fandom is still exploding with Jared/Jensen fics. And were long before anyone found out that they share digs in Vancouver.

Karl Urban is married with children. Orlando Bloom has been in a long-time relationship with someone. Sean Bean is also married. These facts have ZERO basis in my written sexual fantasies about them. Because it doesn't matter. Their real lives have nothing to do with me or what I write.

Dude, you can hate who you want, when you want, how you want. Doesn't mean I don't like you or respect you less as a person. That's your right & you're welcome to it. Just as Jess & I are welcome to say, hey, take a step back, because these peoples' personal lives have zero bearing on why you started getting into their shows/music/movies/teams in the first place. Or, at the least, it shouldn't be.

[stormcloude]

because he seems like a cool cat

But would you think he was a cool cat if he was dating insert-your-most-despised-person-here? Or would that affect what you think of him and whether you wanted to see more of him or not?

And I know you've complained about how small the Jared/Chad segement of fandom is. Don't you think there would be a whole lot more going on and more activity if they -did- start showing up places together? Don't you think that would have an affect on the fandom?

I just don't think you can completely divorce real life from fandom. You apparently disagree. :)

[azewewish.livejournal.com]

Actually, no, not really. I despise Kirsten Dunst as an actress to the nth degree, but it never affected how I viewed Jake Gyllenhaal when they were dating.

I mean, I get that some people feel that way, I just don't care myself. I don't like Jake's films because of who he's dating or not dating, that's not why I got into him as an actor.

It's sort of like the recent kerfluffle with Bale. What happened on that set was NONE of my business, and I don't care who yelled at who & for what reason. Will I go stop seeing films that Christian is in just because he was a dick in RL to some guy I don't even know? Nope, because that's confusing his characters with how he is & I don't have to live with the guy, so I don't care.

I'm totally not telling you personally how to feel, you know that. Just that I see it (apparently) completely different. :)